The Ladies Lifestyle

Laughter, is there anything more reviving than a good laugh?  The moment something tickles your funny bone and sparks a laugh, everything around you stops, for the briefest moment the only thing you are focused on is laughing. I love a lot of things about life, at the top of my list is humor. As a student in college, I did an entire research assignment and paper on laughter, yeah, laughing is crucial in my world. From it's contagious nature to the health benefits, laughter is an important part of our human existence. There are so many things that make me laugh, from Big Bang Theory to inappropriate jokes at the most inappropriate times. In between the two is Useless facts, there are some funny truths in this world. I am talking about things that educate and crack you up at the same time. There is nothing funnier than some random, useless, but hilarious statement that turns out to be true. When I am feeling a little low and need a laugh fix, I google funny facts. Below you will f...

My 2 Favs I am no stranger to illness and being sick, hence, Periods Should Knot Be Painful . I have been what people call, "sickly" for a large portion of my life. From vomiting, having high fevers, and being bedridden EVERY Christmas until I was about 18, to being plagued with diseases like Endometriosis, PCOS, Adenomyosis, Rheumatoid Arthritis, Diabetes, etc. Because I was sick often, I commonly heard comments like, she is always sick, you always in pain, you will never have kids, what's wrong with her now, and other bull crap. It was words like this that made me absolutely hate the sick portion of myself. I didn't want to be ill. I didn't ask to be ill. I didn't have a say in deciding what my body chose to do but I was somehow at fault for all the ills that continuously overtook me. So as a child, I divided myself into two people, there was the Sick Me and the Well Me. When I would become sick, I would hide in my mom's room, she would eithe...

If there is any advantage to living with an invisible illness, it is the invisible aspect. While this element often comes with more challenges than benefits, there are still a few benefits. However, with an Invisible Illness like PCOS, there are a few outward signs that will give an indication that something is going on in a woman's body. All of my Reproductive Life, I have had issues. From the very young age of 11 to this present day, my period continues to be a daily challenge for me. On the other hand, it was my period or should I say the disappearance of my period that told me something abnormal was going on in my body. It would take years and several doctors before I was diagnosed with PCOS.  Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome(PCOS) is a hormonal disorder of the Endocrine System in women. Woman with PCOS suffer with internal issues like ovarian cysts, infertility, irregular periods, and so much more. Unlike diseases like Endometriosis, Adenomyosis, Menorrhagia, etc; PCOS does have ...

As I reflect on 2015 and all that I have learned in this year, I realized that I have never really shared me on my blogs. I talk about Endometriosis, Life, etc, and while those things are apart of my life, they are not the totality of who I am. So here are, 40 random, funny, weird, but factual things about me: 1. My name is Tamika(that should tell you the year in which I was born) 2. I turned 40 this year(no excuse for you to not have figured out the year of my birth) 3. I am the baby of my siblings 4. I was born and raised in Detroit! I bleed the 313 5. I am a mom but I have never given birth(take that infertility) 6. I am obsessed with all things hair, make up, and nails, like an unhealthy, a well laid sew in is orgasmic, probably needs to be looked into obsession 7. My parents and grandparents are deceased, I often feel like I am alone in this world. 8. I have a blankey that I have had since I was very young, I can't sleep without it, it goes everywhere with me, EVER...

You've felt it before, the ache, the burning, the awareness that your body is awakening to stimulation. Now, disconnect those sensations from pain.  Because we are women who battle illnesses of the reproductive areas, we have become so accustomed to pain. We have a challenging time embracing any other feelings in our bodies. Yes, pain is a part of our existence but we have to learn how to stop it from hijacking our entire physical being.  If you are serious about regaining your sex life, the first step is to get reacquainted with yourself, with your body.  Recognize that there is more to you than Endometriosis, Pelvic Pain, Infertility, PCOS, etc.  Your body is capable of experiencing pleasure and passion. The only thing standing between you and luxuriously Labia swelling, clitoral climaxing,  lovemaking  that leads to orgasmic euphoria is, YOU ! There are a few things that you need to do to rediscover your body. The most important being, change your perce...

There is nothing more human than the desire to connect with another person on a physically intimate level. The pull of passion, the eroticism of an embrace, the sensual assault on the senses, breathless bodies climbing to the height of climax; all of these things make sex one of the greatest experiences of human existence. There are very few things that are as addictive as an orgasm, especially if it's done right! The consuming explosion of  a hormonal cocktail that is powerful enough to give you a high that is beyond comprehension, is what keeps us craving the carnal caresses of intercourse. Unfortunately, there are some who have challenges enjoying sex because of Chronic Pelvic Pain caused by illnesses like Endometriosis, Vulvodynia, PFD, etc. For women battling these physical aliments, the mere thought of sex can be overwhelming, daunting, and terrifying. Because I have struggled in this area, I feel that I am more than capable of helping women reclaim their love of lascivious...

In general closure answers the question why . As humans, we want to know why . If we know why, we can embrace our circumstances and make peace with it but what do we do when we don't know why ? What do we do when closure means accepting what is but not understanding why it is? If a person has HIV/AIDS they know why they have it. If a person smoked and ended up with Lung Cancer, they know why . These people possess the ability to accept their condition and either fight it or give in to. The bottom line is they know why and in that knowing, if they desire, they can find closure. Yet, the question remains, what do you do when you don't know why? How do you embrace something that has no known reason or cause? How do you accept an enemy when you don't know where it came from or why it has invaded your life? How do you fight the invisible? This is a question that women like me find ourselves struggling to answer each and everyday.  As I sat in the bathtub today, why me...