So You're Sick....And??

Now that you have finally found out the name of the nemesis that has invaded your body, now that you are certain that its not in your head and that you aren't slowly going crazy, and you know that you are indeed in a battle with an illness for your health and well being. So you're sick....and?? Unfortunately, just because we are not who we were before being plagued and diagnosed, life does not stop. The bills will keep coming, the kids will continue to grow, your partner will still want sex, and time continues to pass. If we are to truly survive this thing called Endometriosis, we have to find a way to reinvent ourselves, to do what we use to do but in a different way. I am going to share with you a few things that I have implemented in my quest to become a more efficient and effective version of who I use to be, a modified and adapting me.
                                           The Beginning

• Grieve: before you can do anything or make a step towards newness, you have to grieve who you were, accepting the fact that a portion of that being is gone and may never come back. You have to lay her to rest. Cry, scream, hide, question, and blame but in the end, you have to bid her a farewell.
• Embrace: after you have cried your eyes out, yelled at God, blamed your parents(at least I did...they were too old to have a kid), and ate an entire gallon of ice cream. Get up, with your back straight, and your hands on your hips;  look at yourself in the mirror and say, " I can do this, I accept the challenge!"
• Explain: as exhausting as it can be to explain to the people in your intimate circle that you are not the woman you once were, it has to be done.   However, before you dare to enlighten the masses prepare yourself for the questions, rejection, the glares, and ignorance. Not everyone will embrace the new you and that has to be ok.
• Reinvent: look at your life and your lifestyle and figure out how you can continue to make it happen. Now understand that there will be a few things that you absolutely will not be able to do. In those cases, you have to check your pride and ask for help(I am still struggling with this one). You can't fall into the pity pit, you have a life to live and its up to you to figure out how to do it. Only the strong will be able to successfully complete the reinvention phase. You may have to go back to that mirror several times until you build up your confidence, just don't stop trying. In the end, what other choice do you have?

While these few tips will not help you reinvent your entire life, this is how I started the process of living and thriving as a modified version of me. Yes, there will be a lot of tears, failures, and attempts along the way but the goal is to keep living. You can't let this enemy win, you have got to stand up for yourself and fight back!! Look Endometriosis in the eye and say, PHUCK  YOU ENDO!!!